Vixyntrovert

In this post I'm going to explain my financial situation. Finances can be a very controversial topic, and as I receive a government benefit it's even more so. People in New Zealand overall have a low opinion of people who receive government 'handouts' because of a perception they are lazy and spend their money on unnecessary luxuries, junk food, and drugs. Meanwhile, people overseas can be jealous of the system. This post is personal, not political, though of course I have opinions and they aren't all positive. In this post I'm just sharing my situation, which is a unique one because my partner isn't a New Zealand resident or citizen so he isn't eligible for any government benefits himself. Meanwhile, I qualify as long-term disabled because of my Bipolar II, and as long as this is confirmed by a doctor it also qualifies me for the Supported Living Payment from the government without any obligation to find work. It doesn't prevent me from working, eit...

I have these mutual friends myself, and I have also been this mutual friend and even lost friends when they discovered I wasn't taking sides. Please understand that this is only a perspective and I'm not trying to make anyone else reading this share this perspective. It absolutely is possible, but very rare, for someone to be a mutual friend. They must have boundaries strong enough to continue to love the abuser after hearing the truth but the strength to refuse to buy into it, and they can support the person who was abused without feeding information back to the abuser, or in fact help the victim stay safe by sharing information that helps them to avoid the abuser. Unfortunately for us victims, the emotional hurt and constant disrespect of our boundaries by our abusers creates a pattern that makes it very difficult to believe mutual friends are a possibility, because it does take a lot of strength that you can't always expect or trust is real in these very rare others. Per...